vdpa/mlx5: support queue update

vdpa/mlx5: support queue update

Last changes in vDPA device management by vhost library may cause queue
ready state update after the device configuration.

So, there is chance that some queue configuration information will be
known only after the device was configured.

Add support to reconfigure a queue after the device configuration
according to the queue state update and the configuration changes.

Adjust the host notifier and the guest notification configuration to be
per queue and to be applied in the enablement process.

Signed-off-by: Matan Azrad <matan@mellanox.com>
Reviewed-by: Maxime Coquelin <maxime.coquelin@redhat.com>