vhost: add pipe event for optimizing negotiation

vhost: add pipe event for optimizing negotiation

When vhost-user connects qemu successfully, dpdk will call
the vhost_user_add_connection to add unix socket fd to poll.
And fdset_add only set the socket fd to a fdentry while poll
may sleep now. In a general case, this is no problem. But if
we use hot update for vhost-user, most downtime of VMs network
is 750+ms. This patch adds pipe event, so after connections are
ok, dpdk rebuild the poll immediately. With this patch, the
most downtime is 20~30ms.

Signed-off-by: Tonghao Zhang <xiangxia.m.yue@gmail.com>
Reviewed-by: Maxime Coquelin <maxime.coquelin@redhat.com>