vhost-user: prepare multiple queue setup

vhost-user: prepare multiple queue setup

All queue pairs, including the default (the first) queue pair,
are allocated dynamically, when a vring_call message is received
first time for a specific queue pair.

This is a refactor work for enabling vhost-user multiple queue;
it should not break anything as it does no functional changes:
we don't support mq set, so there is only one mq at max.

This patch is based on Changchun's patch.

Signed-off-by: Ouyang Changchun <changchun.ouyang@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Yuanhan Liu <yuanhan.liu@linux.intel.com>
Acked-by: Flavio Leitner <fbl@sysclose.org>
Acked-by: Huawei Xie <huawei.xie@intel.com>